Wanita, Antara Objek dan Subjek

Assalamualaikum

in the name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful

to begin with, I'd like to wish Happy Mother's Day to all mothers!

I don't know a perfect way how to start this. So bear with me o.k.

Last week I was rostered to be in Delivery Suite for 1 week. I'm not talking this from a medical point of view. Let's view it from another angle.

Dan Kami - Allah - berwasiat kepada manusia supaya berbuat baik kepada kedua orangtuanya. Ibunya telah mengandungnya dengan menderita kelemahan di atas kelemahan - yakni terus -menerus -dan ceraian susuannya dalam dua tahun. Hendaknya engkau bersyukur kepadaKu dan kepada kedua orangtuamu."(Luqman: 14)

Women are not appreciated highly enough. Seriously, a week is enough to tell how difficult it is to bear a developing fetus in the womb for 9 months. The pain levels increase proportionately with time. It does not stop there. Next, they have to be in delivery suite for as long as 24 hours sometimes, just to give birth, regardless of whether it's a planned or unplanned one. Sometimes this is so hard that some women die. Some of the procedures were quite traumatising to me, yet these ladies had the courtesy to say 'thanks' to their husbands for just being there for them. It should be the opposite way, shouldn't it?

A husband would appreciate his wife more if he knew this, and he should be grateful he was born a man. I have witnessed it a few times, few men cried after the delivery.

Now, seriously, I can't understand why would anyone ever raise their voice or worse, walk out on his/her mum? They have no idea what their mothers went through.

"Dan Tuhanmu telah menentukan supaya engkau semua jangan menyembah melainkan Dia
dan supaya engkau semua berbuat baik kepada kedua orangtua. Dan kalau salah seorang di antara keduanya atau keduanya ada di sisimu sampai usia tua, maka janganlah engkau berkata kepada keduanya dengan ucapan "cis", dan jangan pula engkau menggertak keduanya, tetapi ucapkanlah kepada keduanya itu ucapan yang mulia - penuh kehormatan.

"Dan turunkanlah sayap kerendahan - maksudnya: Rendahkanlah dirimu - terhadap kedua
orangtuamu itu dengan kasih-sayang dan katakanlah: "Ya Tuhanku, kasihanilah kedua orang tuaku itu sebagaimana keduanya mengasihi aku di kala aku masih kecil." (al-lsra': 23-24)

peaceful, isn't it?

This is nothing sentimental. You will know when the time comes.

Part 2 will come.
I'm too sleepy to write about Wanita sebagai Objek pulak.

assalamualaikum